I watched a video of Brené Brown’s talk on her book Daring Greatly. The title comes from a Theodore Roosevelt quote, taken from a speech he gave in 1910 called the “Citizenship In A Republic”.
Here’s the full quote:
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
After reading this quote, this is the advice Brené has on responding to critics:
If you are not in the arena also getting your ass kicked on a regular basis, I am not open or interested in your feedback.
Don’t let those whose judgements, born of their own fears and insecurities, they love to throw upon you, wanting to keep you down, stop you from daring greatly.